If you feel miserable as a single lady on Valentine’s Day, DON’T!

I used to hate all the commercials on Valentine’s Day and I would feel miserable all day just because I am a single and would have to pretend that I have some place to go after work on the day.

I was and am still a single. But after so many years, I have learnt to handle the peer pressure and unnecessary stress that a single lady would face in today’s world. Although statistics revealed that rate of singles has increased in recent years, majority of the people surrounding me still fall within the category of being married at the right age, at the right time. Even if they are not married, most of them have found their loved ones.

I never like Valentine’s Day. I dreaded to get to work on Valentine’s Day seeing bouquets of flowers on my colleagues’ tables but mine, an empty one. Lunch topics would be on where would their loved ones bring them tonight, how they have spent Valentine’s evening last year, how romantic it was and it would go on and on… I would sit there speechless, suddenly feel inferior to people whom I hang out with at work place. Already miserable, this situation can sometimes get worse when I got thrown with questions like any plan tonight, why don’t I start going out to meet people, have I considered Mr. A or Mr. B and so on. Well the fact is, I have suffered to certain extent staying single just because of my refusal to compromise my standard. I have little circle of single male friends and if I have, they would probably be people I met at my work place. Occasionally, I do come across nice guys but to me work is work and is always against the idea of dating at work place. Never eat and shit at the same place, that’s what I think!

It is going to be Valentine again in about a month’s time. And yes at 30, am still single, still reluctant to compromise unless there is a right one. But this year, I am determined to make it different that is I am not going to feel inferior or terrible anymore. Hence, I have listed down my dos and don’ts on Valentine’s Day to get myself prepared. If you are a single and would like to share your idea or opinion with me, please kindly email me at charlenebelle@yahoo.com.

Dos

Do get to know single ladies at my work place, build relationship and get to know them better because we would be able to relate better to each other.

Do go out with the singles for lunch on Valentine’s Day to avoid being bombarded with all unanswerable questions.

Do plan a night out with your friends who are also singles. If you have good or best friends who are singles, you would have cut half of your effort of possibly feeling depressed on Valentine’s Day. There are lots of things you could do, like, watching a movie, eating at a good restaurant, shopping and many more.

Work hard and concentrate on your work during the day. Never stay late at work place on Valentine’s Day. You would feel even more miserable.

Do buy yourself a good meal. Enjoy great food and forget about the rest.

If you have very good or best friends who are also singles, you probably want to get some small gifts for them to tell them how much you have appreciate them for their companion and friendship over the years. This is one good way because an act of love can turn out to be a great blessing.

Don’ts
Don’t go out with ladies, who are crazily in love on Valentine’s Day, especially those with bouquets of flowers and lots of gifts. You would feel remarkably horrible.

If you see a whole bunch of ladies discussing about the gifts they received from their boyfriends, don’t even go near.

Never allow yourself to even feel slightest depression. You don’t have to.

If you are not comfortable with friends recommending you to attend some singles’ parties, which are widely available in town especially on Valentine’s evening, don’t! Do what you think would make you comfortable and happy.

The above article is contributed by Charlene from lovemyjewel.com, a lady who used to feel badly depressed on Valentine’s Day.